Be afraid not. For in your fear, you condemned yourself to fear. In every situation, you choose love or fear, and when you do not choose love, you choose pain. Let go of your fear, and know that God is with you. It is okay to feel the pain of loss, but (somehow) it is supposed to make its way through you, and not be held on to.
Acceptance is the key to non-suffering. Through the suffering we are meant to learn non-judgment. Give your pain and suffering to God by accepting His will. Never, ever believe that you are alone because you are not.